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What thinking sounds like before it goes underground

Thursday, 10 May 2012 15:40
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From thoughts about babies thinking aloud to thoughts about putting children under ground... Random reflections.

Since he was about eight months old, Liam has started his day by talking to himself, often for a good half hour and sometimes even longer. Arnulfo and I are fairly addicted to the sweet sound of him jabbering away, a jabbering that is steadily resolving itself into actual language. I'm starting to realize, though, that in the next year or so--maybe less--he won't be doing his thinking out loud any more. What will I do when all of that joyful noise goes underground and he thinks his thoughts for himself alone?

I tell myself pretty much daily, in advance of this retreat of my son's thinking away from my ears, Remember. Remember what this was like.

Probably I should record him. Although it won't capture everything, a recording would be a crutch for remembering the feeling. 

Yes, Liam's thinking is going to go underground, but I hope his sweetness won't. Nor his smirking playfulness, his stubborn streak, his radar for raisins and bread.

I realize, of course, that I am drifting away from the idea of language going underground. That is probably because right now I am writing a novel in which many, many children die in a school explosion. And I wonder--cringing the whole while--what it might be like to put your own child under ground.

I am writing the book, but I am also letting it spur me on to be present to my family now, to savor every second, to brace myself against loss and hope that it doesn't come.

In the meantime... I tell myself, Remember. Remember. Remember. I want to take the sound of my son's voice--his just-waking-up yammerings--with me forever. 

Happy Birthday, Monsieur Mono!

Sunday, 29 April 2012 10:57
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Today, our little boy Liam Miguel turns 2. He's traveled a lot of miles in his short life, and he seemed to enjoy his Paris birthday very well. I made his cake, and you'll notice the three languages (English, Spanish, French) there. Yes, he speaks them all a little; he's a very global little fellow! We're enjoying hearing him talk more every day.

Why "Monsieur Mono"? We sometimes call Liam that when he's being a little silly... or just as a term of endearment. He does an excellent monkey impression when he's in the mood.

Liam, thanks for bringing so many new kinds of joy into our lives. Feliz cumpleaños, joyeaux anniversaire, happy birthday!

Pimping out my writer's notebook with borrowed parts

Thursday, 26 April 2012 10:16
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My most recent writer's notebook--cute as it is--doesn't have a pocket for my lists. In the past, I've done different things like pasting in envelopes to provide for the necessary expansion space. But supplies are limited in our Paris apartment. My solution was to jack the pocket from my previous PaperBlanks notebook. Bonus? When I removed the pocket, I managed to get the elastic band, too! So now my slim little notebook is as fully featured as any gal could ask for.

Who says I wasn't paying attention when my brother was watching all those reruns of "MacGyver"? I guess it's not a duct-tape-reinforced, mosquito-repellent explosive, but I'm proud of myself. It's the small pleasures...

A collection of micro-confessions

Thursday, 19 April 2012 10:44
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If you didn't know, I'm on Twitter: @ashleyhopeperez. I've discovered that--for better or worse--Twitter lends itself to micro-confessions. I'm a bit of a confession junkie (for example, I MIGHT make a weekly stop to postsecret.com to see the latest in minor and major postcard confessions.)

Here are a few of my own small confessions from Twitter...

Sometimes, on my Mac, I "Force Quit" an application--even when it's behaving fine--just to feel powerful.

I used to giggle every time I saw the word “SIEMENS” on an appliance. Now, thanks to a WWII history buff, I think of concentration camp labor.

I place candy wrappers under poop-bomb diaper in trash to avoid spousal detection.·

At 9mos, our son got into the cat food on my watch. The worst = I think he liked it.

I used to have an irrational fear of odd numbers & argued a grade down once because of it.

Did an image search for “miscarriage” (book research) and was sorry.

I’m learning what potty-training involves, and sometimes I wish I could keep Liam in diapers.

Now that you know some of what you've been missing (I also retweet interesting articles and book-related stuff), go follow @ashleyhopeperez on Twitter. :)

Authors for Henryville

Thursday, 08 March 2012 08:58
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Why "Authors for Henryville"? Read on:

On March 2nd, tornados ripped through Southern Indiana, killing 14 people and devastating several communities. Among the towns that were practically erased from the map was the small community of Henryville. Its elementary, middle, and high schools were torn apart, shredded, and flattened. All the books in the school libraries were ruined.

Some students have lost their homes while others have lost loved ones. All of them will have to be bused to various nearby schools in order to finish out the school year. It is too early for us to even know what the future holds for them or how soon the Henryville schools will be rebuilt and reopened.

But, no matter what, Henryville needs help! And so this group of Hoosier authors is inviting writers from all over to help us raise funds to donate to the Red Cross.

-- from the Authors for Henryville website

I'm living in Paris, but a big piece of my heart is in  our current home state of Indiana--especially since last week. Julia Karr, author of XVI and Truth, is spearheading a fundraiser for the Henryville community. Christine Johnson, Mike Mullin, Josie Bloss, and I are working with Julia to organize this effort, and authors from all over are pledging amazing prizes for giveaway to donors as well as auction items (pssst! Meg Cabot is donating sets of ALL of her series!).

You can see the first wave of authors participating on the Authors for Henryville website. Stay tuned for specifics about where to donate funds, bid for auction items, and enter the fabulous drawing. We are waiting on the Henryville schools to let us know how we can best help.

In the meantime, if you would like to pledge a book to use as a prize or auction item, check out this call to authors (perfect for sending on to author friends, too) or simply email your pledge to authors4henryville(at)gmail.com.

Thanks in advance for your generosity and support. Let's show this community that we care. The success of this effort depends on ALL of us.

I still like blowing out the candles

Monday, 05 March 2012 09:58
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A lot of people make jokes about how, when you get old, it's no longer fun to blow out the candles on your birthday cake. But not me. I don't care if lighting all those candles threatens to turn the icing into a buttery puddle--I want the candles, and I want to make a wish! If I pass out trying to blow out my candles, so be it.

I've never been into big birthdays, but at my advanced age (I can hear some people who know me chortling) and in my new role as mother and custodian of Liam's birthday experiences, I no longer expect fireworks beyond birthday candles. Just a cake of some kind and a little quality time with my boys. 

That said, may I state for the record that a surprise birthday party does NOT make up for pretending all day to have forgotten a person's birthday. Not that I'm speaking from experience here. I did not walk around with a lump in my throat for 10 hours during sophomore year in college when nobody said "happy birthday," and I did not buy myself a cupcake, and I DEFINITELY did not cry out of relief ("I do exist!) when the surprise was revealed. Right... it was a little like that youtube video a while back of the girl crying (really crying) when she finds out she's going to Disneyworld. Only... she was, like, 5. And this DIDN'T happen to me when I was, say, 17.

My best birthday gift ever? A marriage proposal from my best-friend and now husband, Arnulfo. It's possible that this was a little overdue (in my opinion) but NO WAY was it preceeded by any tearful, "are we getting married or what?" conversations. (There is a pattern in the non-events of my life, right...)

But that's history... And anyway, it was worth the wait. I never would have had enough faith in me to put an expensive ring on my finger while standing on a jety in the Gulf of Mexico, but lucky for us all, I didn't drop it into the ocean. Whew. 

Two technology-related gripes (A RANT)

Thursday, 12 January 2012 10:39
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I have two complaints to file today. These have been simmering--no, festering--for weeks, and it's time I said something.

(1) Reading on my iPad is NOT, NOT, NOT the f***ing same. Don't get me wrong, as a writer and PhD student in Paris, I don't know what I'd do without my ebooks and pdfs. Cry? Watch my creative stomach consume itself, Twila Tharp-style? But!! I miss holding books. I miss bookmarks. I miss feeling where I am in a book by the number of pages ahead and behind my present location. I miss writing in the margins. I miss flipping through the pages. Yes, a search function felt "handy" at first, but now I just wish I could follow my own mind's map through the physical pages in a physical book. Andrew Karre, those thoughts you had about discreteness? They're not just idle worries. They're the stuff of my current angst. By the way, I'm pretty sure the Andrew of August 18, 2011, did some time travel and read my (now) diary to be able to write this:

I love books for their self-contained universes. I worry about what happens to the discreteness of those universes when there is nothing to prevent me from barging through every thin place, every interdimensional wormhole I encounter. It seems that every step toward pervasive electronic books reveals another way in which paper books are perfect technology.

Me too!! I want paper baaaack!*

(2) The Twitter character limit that used to seem "fun" and "challenging" is currently pissing me off. I know, I know, I even said Twitter could make you a better writer by training you to self-edit. And probably it can. But who f***ing cares when they want to communicate a semi-nuanced thought? I'm sick of feeling like a bad Hemingway imitator. I'm embarrassed by my chronic two-tweet messages. Yes, yes, I know I can enable a "long message" linking feature, but that makes me feel like I have diarrhea of the keys. Or like I've signed up for a modification that I should be good enough not to need. Damn it, why isn't it 200 characters? Just give me that. Can't they base the bulk of a Twitter message on an overweight Paris pigeon instead of that skinny, too-damn-cute chickadee they used to weigh out our characters? Come on, guys...

*No friggin' surprise that Andrew called this one. He's brilliant, like I said here.

What Courage Sounds Like

Tuesday, 03 January 2012 10:19
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To ring in 2012, I offer you this scene: a Paris Metro car full of people on their way home, their facial expressions ranging from impatient to bored. In the middle of us all, a woman with her amplifier strapped to a dolly, sings into a microphone that lets us hear her loud and clear (whether we want to or not) as she croons "Sway" with a very thick French accent.

At first, I found it a bit annoying to have my eardrums accosted by accordionists, singers, and other performers on the Metro when all I wanted was to get home from work and see my boys. But then I began to really pay attention to these performers. Some clearly were doing it just for the money--the handful of change they shamed or pressured travelers into giving them before they finally stepped off the train and went to inflict auditory torture on someone else.  The instrument they carried was basically just an accessory to their panhandling efforts.

Other buskers were different--well dressed and apparently indifferent to whether or not they received donations.  I have a theory (perhaps totally bogus) that these performers see the Metro as a kind of endless open-mike opportunity. They have a captive audience, after all.

But for my shy self, the proportions of their courage boggle the mind. A captive audience, yes, but a very cranky audience determined not to be moved by their music. Is it the challenge that appeals? And has a Metro crowd ever burst out into applause? I'd love to know.

While I have sometimes wanted to pay the Metro performers money to please, please STOP playing, our little boy Liam is a huge fan of all music, no matter how bad. He'll sway to an out-of-tune accordion, elevator music, or even a cellphone ringtone. So I guess--when he's with us--the buskers can count on at least one appreciative member in their captive audience.

And maybe, with enough courage, one real listener is enough to make it worthwhile. That's what I'm trying to remember this new year, knee-deep as I am in scary, rough-drafting for novel #3.

Chocolate Tart in Paris (with Liam as model!)

Thursday, 29 December 2011 10:06
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So far it appears absolutely impossible to go wrong with any recipe by David Lebovitz. But especially when it comes to chocolate, he is an evil genius! What I love best about this chocolate tart recipe is that it only requires ingredients that any sane person already has in her kitchen: sugar, vanilla, butter, coffee, flour, eggs, and a good bar of chocolate. I also made David's French pastry recipe. (It's a lot easier than a rolled pastry crust, but I recommend doubling it and storing half the dough in the fridge for sudden baking needs. I used mine for a quick quiche).

Looking for a simple-but-special holiday treat for your New Year's Eve party? Look no further.

The batter for the tart is delicious--akin to the richest fudge sauce you've ever had. When baked, it becomes denser but is still very smooth, kind of like a very thick pudding. Anyway, the husband approved, as did Liam. I'll let him model the satisfaction since he looks way cuter with chocolate all over his face than I do. (Unfortunately, this is not just a hypothetical comparison: apparently every time I sneak a little Nutella, I manage to smear it across my mouth, which makes it difficult to feign innocence when Arnie asks what I've been snacking on.)

Um, is there a problem here?

More pie, please!

What if I suck in my stomach? See? I really, really need more pie!

No choices: my new favorite way to dine (Les Papilles in Paris)

Thursday, 22 December 2011 10:45
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For Christmas, Arnie and I bought each other a grown-up* dinner at Les Papilles, a well-established French bistro with a reputation for its excellent market-driven menu and wide selection of wines. And I discovered my new favorite way to have dinner out: without choices.

Because at Les Papilles (translates as "the tastebuds") the day's offerings are the same for everyone and based on what's fresh at the market.

Our first course was a gorgeous cream of zucchini soup ladled over seasoned bread cubes, bacon, and an olive cream fraiche dollop. I loved that we had our own giant tureen of soup so that I could have three servings. (Sorry, couldn't find a picture of our soup.)

The next course was beef cheek slow-roasted in red wine with baby potatoes, carrots and thyme. Tasty, even for this former vegetarian!

http://www.flickr.com/photos/donutgirl/1524409412

The cheese course was a blue cheese served with a prune to balance out the saltiness. Delish.

Chez Pim: http://www.flickr.com/photos/chezpim/791139249

Finally, the dessert. Oh, my goodness. I wish I could remember what it was called. (If somebody knows from my description, please tell me!) Carmelized bananas on the bottom, this amazingly mild and smooth creamy stuff above that, and a caramel foam on the top. I wanted to die...

Paris By Mouth: http://www.flickr.com/photos/parisbymouth/4263053517

Another thing I loved was picking out our own wine from the many choices along the wall...

From Paris by Mouth

Not a single disappointment for these satisfied diners. 

*Liam had to sit this one out, but he had a great time with super babysitter Melissa.

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